New Years’ Resolutions
‘What do I want to change about myself?’
That’s the question I think most people are trying to answer when they come up with their New Years’ resolutions. The answers? Invariably, they are something like, I want to lose weight, I want to be healthier, I want to learn a new skill, I want to pick up a good habit, I want to read more, I want to watch less TV. Right?
For me, this kind of thing rarely works. The failure has little, if anything, to do with the challenge itself, usually. It’s about the arbitrary nature of it. You decide to make this change on New Years Day because its a new year, not due to any external or internal catalyst. To me, it robs the resolution of the weight of a meaningful promise to myself. And it’s not just me. By the the second or third week of January, the ruins of broken and abandoned resolutions litter the landscapes of our lives.
So, here’s another question, that you might be asking at this stage?
‘Why are you writing a blogpost entitled “Gaming Resolutions 2025” then, Ronan?’
It’s a very good question, dear reader, and you deserve an answer. To answer, I’m going to examine my gaming resolution of 2024. It was, in fact, my only resolution. At the close of the year I had been working on a Resistance System game for a few months. It didn’t have a name but the idea was that players would play magic users in the modern era. They would form a party and work together to achieve certain goals for their secret magical society while also attempting to outdo each other in power, reputation and knowledge. The central mechanic was centred around sacrifice and I was going to design Fallouts appropriate to that. I’d come up with some classes, skills, domains, resistances and the idea for unique mechanics by December 2023. So, my resolution was to finish working on that game and move on to the next one. That was, pretty much, the death-knell of my work on that game. I think the last work I did on that was in April, 2024. And that work was token, cursory at best. One thing I know for certain is that that promise to myself was too big. The game was too big, the amount of work it demanded of me was too much and the prospect of doing it was a little too stressful.
So, instead, this year, I am going to commit to getting a bit better at certain things, instead of committing a lot of time and effort to complete a project I didn’t even really know how to start. And these are all things that I have been thinking about for some time, stuff I have wanted to implement for a while to improve my play and the games I am involved in. So, it doesn’t feel so arbitrary.
So, without further ado, here are my…
Gaming Resolutions 2025
- Make those stars sparkle and make those wishes come true: I was first exposed to Stars and Wishes this year when I took part in my first Open Hearth games. For the uninitiated, at the end of a session, a GM might ask their players for their Stars, i.e. stand out moments, moves, characters, players etc. and Wishes, in other words, what they would like to have seen happen in the session, what they wanted more of or less of or what they would like to see in future sessions. For a GM, this is an incredibly useful tool. It allows you to see what your players like and what they dislike. But, I find, too often, I don’t always re-integrate the stuff that came up in players’ Stars and Wishes. And I know, for certain, that when I do manage to apply what I learned from feedback, it has made my games better. So, how am I going to do this? I have an idea, that I literally just came up with, to create a spreadsheet to record each player’s Stars and each player’s Wishes from every session of every game. I’ll add in some columns to record potential ways to add more of the good stuff and ways to fix the problems that were revealed. Another column will summarise players’ reactions to the solutions. If it needs more tweaking, another column will detail that. I think this could be an invaluable tool to improve my games and will be there as a record so I don’t forget.
- Brighter stars, wiser wishes: Sticking with the Stars and Wishes theme, I’d like to get more useful feedback from it. One of Tables and Tales’ fantastic founding members, Shannen, used a few methods to get more valuable feedback from her players in a game earlier this year. She requested feedback through DMs on our Discord. Why? Well, most people are pretty nice, actually. They tend to not want to offend anyone or say something in front of a group that might embarrass somebody. So, if you take the process away from the table, they might be more likely to tell you what they really think in private. We were just discussing this last night and, along with that, we all agreed that Stars and Wishes in the Discord chat for the game is way more valuable than having people just tell you them at the end of a session, when players are often pushed for time, or before they have had a chance to think about it and provide something really useful. So, my second resolution is to get written and private Stars and Wishes from now on.
- Summaries in the chat: I don’t know why I don’t already do this for every game. It proved pretty useful in the Blade Runner game I ran earlier this year. In that one, I had a single document that I updated after each session so the players could easily keep track of what happened session by session. I always write up a summary after every session anyway, so taking the extra step to share it with the players is obvious really.
- Take bigger swings: As a player, it can be tempting to take the safe route. After all, you don’t want your precious little guy to get hurt, right? WRONG! I have decided that it is far more interesting if your character makes the decision to put themselves on the line to save a friend in dire need, or to make the foolish decision to prioritise monetary gain over their own safety or to just do something cool instead of something sensible. I don’t necessarily think this style works in every game (I’m thinking of our current game of the One Ring, for instance) but where it does fit, I think it’s far more rewarding.
- Get out of my comfort zone: I have a type; the gruff voiced, slightly grizzled veteran. That’s who I’m playing in two different ongoing campaigns right now and I am beginning to think I’m predictable. I don’t always play that, but it happens often enough that I can recognise it as a pattern. So, I have decided to make a conscious effort to play other types of characters. I am convinced it will lead to more fun and surprising experience for me and hopefully for my fellow players.
What about you, dear reader? Do you have any habits you want to break or strings you’d like to add to you role-playing bow? Let me know in the chat!
And finally, Happy New Year! Here’s to many more sessions and great experiences around the gaming table in 2025!









